After a few weeks of processing, here are our 3 biggest takeaways from Bob’s message:
1. “Sync it up!”
We live authentically when we sync who we are inside with who we present to the rest of the world. We have a choice in how we show up everyday: we can be thoughtful reflections of our pasts or impulsive reactions to the “things that have happened to us.” Know that we all have insecurities—rooted in our histories—but that we’re all “making our way.” When insecurity arises, Bob says, “find a return address.” In other words, strip your insecurities of their hold on you by tracing them back to the source.
2. Release judgement
To illustrate this point, Bob explained that he often finishes his books before he assigns them a title. He explained that we could all stand to spend more time with people and situations before naming – or judging – them. Bob told a story of a Ugandan man, Cabi, who he met while he was on death row for selling children to be sacrificed (an ancient Ugandan tradition amongst Witch Doctors that is now illegal.) Rather than immediately rejecting him, Bob opened up a school for Witch Doctors like Cabi to learn alternatives to their way of life. When we move out of judgment and hatred, we create space for others to surprise us.
3. If you want to make your dream come true, get uncomfortable
Bob reminded us that dreams are not attained by staying comfortable. He said, “You’re going to get beat up in the process – I can tell you that – but at least you’ll know who you are by the end.” He said that the most profound change occurs when we stand on the “Edge of Yikes” — surrounded by good company, who see us for who we are and who we want to be. In the end, Bob said, “We don’t grow where we’re taught; we grow where we’re loved and accepted.”